Talking to new people can be difficult, but it's something we all have to do. Here are some ways to make your first-time conversations better.
1. Find common ground.
"Common ground" is any idea or hobby you share with the person you are talking to. Some questions that can help you find common ground are, "What do you do for fun?" or "What's the most recent movie you saw?" Once you find common ground, the conversation becomes a lot easier.
2. Ask friendly, personal questions.
It's easy to talk about the weather with new people. But if you really want someone to open up to you, ask them a friendly, personal question like, "What does your name mean?" or "Where did you get that shirt?" Just don't be too personal!
3. Avoid one-word answers.
Try not to ask questions that can be answered with one or two words. For example, instead of asking someone whether they like their job, ask them, "What do you like most about your job?"
4. Give compliments.
Someone once said that people may forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel. Compliments like "You have a great smile" or "Your clothes look very nice," are one of the easiest ways to make someone feel important.
5. Be a good listener.
Finally, when you're having a conversation with someone new, try to give them your full attention. Author Stephen R. Covey said that most people don't listen to understand; they listen to reply. So try to understand the person you're talking to, rather than thinking about what you're going to say next.