"The first time I tried this strategy, I was so stubborn that I insisted that I wasn't stubborn! Over time, as I have worked toward becoming a gentler person, I have found it far easier to see where I'm being stubborn".
"It doesn't make you weak to soften your position. In fact, it makes you stronger. I have a male client who is adamant, to the point of being obnoxious about it, that his wife spent too much money. As he relaxed a little, and noticed his own rigidity, he discovered something that he's now a little embarrassed about, but laughs at. He found out that, in reality, he spent more discretionary money on himself that his wife spent on herself! His objectivity had become muddled by his own rigid belief".